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  3. Mel and I are heading to Las Vegas and will be there August 16 - 22, 2021. Who's there? We are driving, but due to the fires along the way, we're going to be coming down I84 from Portland to Twin Falls, ID, then transferring over to hwy 93. Put a message on my profile page! Not sure what we'll have time for, but I thought I'd gather info. Our first stop is with family in Kennewick, WA, then the 15th we'll be staying in Jackpot, NV.
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  5. PayPal, Venmo, Zelle are all accepted means of supporting SMTR. QueenBee is the ONLY person to see your name and NEVER EVER tells others. We do NOT sell any information from SMTR, nor about you personally.

General Questions

General Questions

This is for the questions we didn't put in the other categories.... and we hope you find what you are searching for.

Am I allowed to contact women that I'm interested in?

If you do not have a dating profile here on SMTR, then we ask that men show themselves as interesting through their posts on conversations. Most women who do not have a dating profile prefer that they make the first contact if they are interested in a man through his writing in the forum discussions.

If you are a man and are posting comments on female profiles (married or single) without invitation, then you are in danger of your account being closed by the Moderators.

It's vitally important to us that women on this site feel safe while they learn about FLR style relationships, as well as where they personally are on the power/control spectrum. One of the main things that have driven women away from participating here have been men contacting them, whether or not they are married.

Why are kink topics greatly curtailed?

QueenBee and AlphaDomme created this website with the focus on women new to the whole topic of having more control (or being able to ask for what they want) in their relationship. Most of the real women who register for the forum are completely new to the entire concept of strong women stepping up to more authority at the behest of their male partner. These women also do not trust that this isn't an idea just to get more sex or attention.

If we allow most of the kink and sexual terminology used on other forums so freely, these women would take one look and say 'I knew it! This is just another one of THOSE websites!'. Then they turn and leave, never to be seen again. And the poor man who asked them to check us out is left with a partner who is no longer interested in listening to more of this topic.

So to help YOU men and the majority of real women who arrive at this website, we maintain as much of a 'vanilla' (aka 'normal every day') relationship discussion focus. We DO expect every member to read the rules, so we do not accept the excuse of 'I didn't know' for very long.

While you personally may not believe that our position on kink terminology is necessary, please understand that we've been running this forum for about 8 years now. We've seen and heard it all!

There are women who are not interested AT ALL in what information is here and will grab anything as an excuse to never return. Then there are women who jump in feet first after having been exposed to mostly kink based websites. Those women often also bring the kink to their discussions and do not always take kindly when we ask them to back off on it. Our position is the same for men and women.

WE DO maintain a Kink Forum for all kinds of discussions on involving kink in our relationships. We are not prudes that don't want you to have fun experimenting, or in talking to others about their experiences with different roles, ideas, toys, etc. BUT we've found that forum to be a real problem with lots of fantasy talk versus real life experience, so we locked the forum away. The ONLY way to access the kink forum is to become a Site Supporter, either Silver or Gold.

You can find more information on supporting this site by going to your personal profile (click on your user name in the upper right hand corner) and look for the link to 'Account Upgrades'.

Those who support this site also get other benefits of starting conversations with other members, having longer to edit their posts, as well as extra bling on their profile to show others that THEY put their money into supporting a site based on real life relationships that are successful, AND also female led and owned!

This website has never made a profit and many thousands of dollars have been invested over the years in custom programming. The best QueenBee hopes for is that this site may one day pay it's own monthly bills. It is our hope that you will join us in making sure this website is around for others to learn from.

How do I delete my account?

You have two options. At the bottom of this page on the right hand side there are some links 'Home, Contact Us, Help'.. Use the 'contact us' option and send a message. These messages can take awhile to arrive, depending on how busy the system is. You should receive a response from QueenBee within 48 hours.

The other option is to go to QueenBee or ShadowLady's personal profile page and post a message on their profile requesting that your account be deleted. This request can take up to 24 hours.

Please be aware that deleting an account does not mean your posts will disappear. They'll still show, but your account will show as being closed and you will no longer receive any site email.

How do I change my user ID? (User Name)

Please go to either QueenBee or ShadowLady's profile page and leave a message on the page. You do not have to be a site member to leave a comment/message. Just let us know what you would like your new user ID to be and we'll change it for you. The change can take up to 24 hours.
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