If you do not have a dating profile here on SMTR, then we ask that men show themselves as interesting through their posts on conversations. Most women who do not have a dating profile prefer that they make the first contact if they are interested in a man through his writing in the forum discussions.

If you are a man and are posting comments on female profiles (married or single) without invitation, then you are in danger of your account being closed by the Moderators.

It's vitally important to us that women on this site feel safe while they learn about FLR style relationships, as well as where they personally are on the power/control spectrum. One of the main things that have driven women away from participating here have been men contacting them, whether or not they are married.